职场英语|职场“大好人”也是缺点（3）

在工作中，太善解人意可不是什么好事，最后你会发现你会被我们的善心所带来的工作压死的。另外，自信也非常重要，对自己有信心，其他人才能对你有信心。

Avoid being overly empathetic.

不要过于善解人意

There's another reason nice people take on too much work: They are overly empathetic. Perhaps your best work friend always turns to you when she's overwhelmed. While she doesn't directly ask you for help, you end up offering anyway, even when you already have several balls in the air. After all, you hate to see her so stressed out. Next time this happens, pause before you offer assistance. It's often enough to lend an ear and offer encouragement without jumping into action. Practice listening more and acting^{1 less.}

大好人会做太多的工作还有一个缘由：他们过于善解人意了。或许你工作中最好的朋友总会在喘不过气的时候向你寻求帮助。虽然她不会直接要你帮忙，但你最后还是帮了，即使这个时候你也是忙得不可开交。毕竟你不想看到她顶着那样大的重压。下次出现这样的情况时，在你要提供帮助的时候先停一停。一般情况下，倾听和激励他们就足够了，不需要自己采取行动。多倾听，少揽活。

Exude^{2 confidence.}

表现源于信

Whether you're talking to a manager or a coworker, be succinct^{3 and direct. Nice people frequently feel the need to justify their thought processes by describing them in excruciating detail. But no one wants to sit through a 10-minute explanation as you slowly get to your point. The truth is there's no need to overexplain. The person you're talking to will ask for clarification if he or she needs it.}

无论和经理还是和同事说话，都要简洁直接。好好人常常感觉有必要将我们的倡导想法描述地一点细节都不放过。但哪个也不想听你唠叨10分钟后才慢慢步入正题。 其实没必要过多地讲解。假如他们需要知道了解会主动问你。

Keep in mind that if you start diplomatically turning down projects or offering critiques of others' work, you'll be displaying new behavior. This will take time to get used to, not only for you, but also for your coworkers and manager. However, by sticking to your new approach, you can be nice and not have to worry about being taken advantage of.

牢记一点：在你开始委婉地拒绝一些项目、对其他人工作提出批评时，你就会有新的表现。这需要时间去适应，不只你，你的同事、经理也一样。不过，坚持你的新方法，你就能做一个不需要担忧让人借助的好人。